"Honoring the Eternal in Us All" 
What You Need
Can you imagine not living your life to the fullest in view of what’s happened here now? A tragedy has struck that opens you up to all kinds of possibilities. Those that stand out, leap to the front of the line. In the rear would be those that are not so satisfying, nor likely very necessary. But, they persist all the same, as do so often those things of which we require very little.
At the front of the line would be Love and Understanding for example. At the rear might be Anger and Denial. Neither of these latter ones is actually horrible in and of themselves but, when applied to a grieving situation, they can interfere.
Your life needs as much comfort and peacefulness as you can muster at this time. So go to the front of the line to gather your requirements. Shop for experiences like Love and Understanding and don’t forget to let the tears flow when they have to. They are your cleansing agents and your Grief will move forward as a result.
Fill your cup often and share what you learn. You’ll be seeing many grieving individuals now that you’ve stepped into that realm. Let them know you understand, and help only if you’re ready to do so. But don’t forget your own losses and do not become a helper until you are ready to move on.
Maurice Turmel PhD